The talking loudly thing is often either gradually losing your hearing and being unaware of it, or spending a lot of time talking to deaf people. Say as little as possible but enough to catch their attention. One technique I use is what I use in advertising. Its very hard to hold back your thoughts but at the same time it is annoying to be cut off. Sorry for drawn out comment but I understand both sides. So I have had to learn to do everything naturally by reading topics like psychology, NLP, meditation, interpersonal skills, etc. I am currently not on medication because the extreme effects all medicine can have on my body. Even with disabilities like ADHD, you can try to adapt and do better. I think it can be wrapped up into one word, "habit". And even more interesting when they ask you, "what class?" Its amazing when you ask a classroom of adults if they have taken a listening class/seminar. And there are other people that have poor communication skills. I have found people are like me that have a hard time focusing on conversations and when a thought hits, we have to state or it will be gone for a long time. I use to get so mad when people interrupt me but later found out that I am equally as guilty.
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I also have a very successful career in sales in software (consultant for several companies). I've been diagosed with extreme ADHD and OCD (my doc said I am one of her worse cases and she has been in the field for over 30 years). And most importantly, the guy who would replace the asshole wouldn't come in early, either, so the jerk would be the one inconvenienced.Īfter a few shifts like this, the assholes would always change their tune and fall in line. Sometimes, they'd get a newbie asshole who thought the rule didn't apply to him, and he'd show up right on time instead of early like everyone else.Īfter a guy did this more than once (and had been told the "rule"), the other fireman would make his working life miserable: mean "pranks", cold food, spit in his food, freeze him out of conversations, etc. My stepdad was a fireman for 35 years, and the unwritten agreement that all the firemen had was that they'd arrive 30 mins early each shift (so that the outgoing guys didn't have to take any last-minute calls that'd put them into overtime). I came in for report before my shift in plenty of time so outgoing staff can leave on time and I am constantly 10 or 15 mins after my shift is over !!!!! rolls in 1 minute before the hour every day and because we have to give shift report and count meds and stuff incoming staff are supposed to come in 15 mins before shifts start and she NEVER has. He kept trying to get me to go home with him, saying, "Haven't you ever had a couple of drinks and get to know someone?" Told the guy I could see him coming a mile away and no thanks! by Anonymous
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